Vi at La Jolla Village resident Sarah Crouch has always been fascinated with the study of humankind. “I got my Master’s in Anthropology because to me it was by far the most interesting subject,” said Ms. Crouch.
So when asked about falling in love as a senior, Ms. Crouch has a unique perspective. “When we were born, the average life expectancy was 68. Everything is different now because of the change in life expectancy — and what a change it’s brought about! Being in a relationship at my age is like entering a whole new world. I’m living anthropology!”
A Warm Welcome to Vi
“The way people welcome you here is to invite you to dinner.” And while Ms. Crouch jumped at the opportunity to make new friends, she never imagined the dinner would lead to romance. “There were six of us at the table, and Dick was to my right.” Dick is Dr. Richard Chalquest, a fellow Vi at La Jolla Village resident who is a Doctor of Veterinary Medicine and has a Ph.D. from Cornell.
Sharing a common love for education, Ms. Crouch and Dr. Chalquest enjoyed a nice conversation over dinner. “He walked out with me and said ‘I hope to see you again.’ I said, ‘I’d like that.’ I kind of knew he would call me the next day,” she said.
First Date in 50 Years
Dr. Chalquest invited her to lunch, and like a smitten teenager, Ms. Crouch found herself wondering what to wear. “I hadn’t had a date in over 50 years! I didn’t know if we’d be going to something fancy or McDonald’s so I thought I’d better dress in between.”
Meanwhile Dr. Chalquest was already charmed. “I was very impressed with her from the beginning,” he said. “She had grace and self-confidence. I just wanted to get to know her better. I took her to Humphrey’s By the Bay,” he said. “We had a really nice conversation. Then we walked through the UCSD campus and went to The Geisel Library. She had never been to La Jolla, so I was showing her La Jolla.”
They continued dating for a year before deciding to take the plunge and move in together. “At our age we’re smarter, wiser and have to move quicker!” said Ms. Crouch. “When we moved in together, we got a lot of congratulatory calls from other residents,” said Dr. Chalquest.
When asked to give advice to other new couples their age, Ms. Crouch said, “It’s the same advice I’d give a 20-year-old. Be adaptable, don’t get panicky, and laugh a lot!”